by Felicie Kalais | Feb 13, 2020 | Romance and Relationship Help
Feeling empty can be difficult to describe. You might feel distant from people, uninterested in familiar activities or unsure what you need. You may notice it after a loss or change, or without a clear explanation. This feeling does not establish a diagnosis, and it...
by Felicie Kalais | Jan 13, 2020 | Romance and Relationship Help
A disappointing date or relationship can leave you questioning your judgement. You may have acted with the information you had, hoped for a different outcome or discovered something you could not know at the beginning. You can reflect on your own choices without...
by Felicie Kalais | Jan 3, 2020 | Romance and Relationship Help
“All is fair in love and war” can sound like permission to do whatever it takes to win someone over. A relationship involves people with their own choices, needs and limits. Strong feelings do not make deception, pressure or humiliation fair. Fairness does not require...
by Felicie Kalais | Dec 10, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
When a relationship takes up more of your time and attention, it can become harder to notice what you want for yourself. Look for a pattern. Are you still able to disagree, see your friends, make plans and pursue things that matter to you? 1. You keep quiet to avoid a...
by Felicie Kalais | Dec 1, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
Emotional abuse can involve threats, humiliation, isolation, monitoring or other behaviour used to control a partner. It deserves attention even when there is no physical injury. You do not need to prove a diagnosis or recognise a particular sequence of stages before...
by Felicie Kalais | Nov 3, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
Repeated criticism, broken agreements or pressure can leave you unsure whether to keep trying or step back. You do not have to decide that someone is a “toxic person” to take the effect of their behavior seriously. Begin with what has happened, what you need and which...
by Felicie Kalais | Oct 11, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
Do you keep working after you are exhausted, dismiss your own needs or speak to yourself more harshly than you would to a friend? Those experiences deserve care. They do not establish that you have a particular personality disorder or that you want to suffer. Instead...
by Felicie Kalais | Oct 11, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
A comfortable relationship can be a good thing. Familiar routines, trust and the freedom to relax around someone do not make love less real. You do not need constant butterflies, fear of losing a partner or a wish for continual physical contact to prove that you care....
by Felicie Kalais | Sep 14, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
Self-love can sound like another thing you are supposed to get right. A more workable starting point is everyday self-respect: making room for a need, keeping a reasonable promise to yourself or responding to a mistake without turning it into a verdict on your worth....
by Felicie Kalais | Aug 16, 2019 | Romance and Relationship Help
Balancing paid work, family responsibilities and your own needs can be difficult even with a well-organised calendar. Childcare costs, shift patterns, health needs and limited support can shape your choices. Feeling stretched does not mean you care too little or have...
