Falling into a pattern in a relationship is very easy. I’m not saying this is wrong. It’s just nice falling in love with someone who makes you feel secure that you can’t go through the same nonsense you’ve been before.
However, you have to be cautious in love. At times you may confuse being happy with being comfortable. We severally find ourselves in long-term relationships that don’t make us happy. We just stay there because we’re afraid of being heartbroken and don’t have the energy to start something new.
Our daily schedules make us feel relaxed and comfortable and by the time we realize what’s happening, it’s already too late.
After some time, you wake up near your partner and wonder how you got there. Happy and comfortable are slightly different but very true.
Being happy means butterflies; being comfortable means complacency.
You are in a state of euphoria when you are happy. And euphoria means stomach flips any time you see your spouse. It doesn’t mean unrealistic romantic bliss. You are happy that way hence the reason why there are a spark and excitement.
However, you don’t question things when you are comfortable, you go with things. Your partner’s presence doesn’t affect you. You are checked out.
You just exist, you don’t know whether you are unhappy or not joyous. However, you’ll find yourself completely suffocated if you simply exist for too long.
Being happy means, you can’t imagine life without your soul mate; being comfortable means not caring.
You cannot imagine life without your partner when you are honestly happy. It breaks your heart even to consider it. Your life would fall apart if your soul mate left you.
You know you can overcome anything on your own. However, the fact that another individual might touch you is positively grotesque.
You are unsure about a lot of things and that’s wonderful and scary feeling at the same time.
Being comfortable means you just don’t want to try. You are too overwhelmed to bear. Why find somebody else when you are okay with how you are? You just don’t want to try.
Being happy means feeling safe; being comfortable means feeling ambivalent
You feel safe when you are happy. You just want to be with your partner. You can’t do without your partner’s scent.
You just want your partner to touch you every time.
When you are comfortable, safety and boredom sound the same to you. The feeling isn’t draining and toxic, its vanilla, bland and homogenous.