Sometimes before a major life event, such as attending college or joining the army, people will dissolve long term relationships. It is at this time, they may not be able to find a satisfactory relationship. It is also at this time that they realize that they may not be able to move on. This lack of movement does not necessarily mean that you are still holding on to love, just that you are stagnating.
At this point, you should ask yourself what exactly it is that is holding you back. It is love? Is it disappointment? Is it sadness? Approach this question with all seriousness and sincerity. Even if you think you have let them go, are you holding on to something? A little something? Even if it’s just a memento.
If you are holding on to anything, your head may have moved on, but your heart hasn’t. Your heart may be hanging on for one last chance. Take some time. Look at what you are holding on to and ask yourself why you are attached to this.
It is at this point that you may decide that a ritual is needed to let go completely.
Letting go of a past love
It’s actually a quite easy ritual to go through. First, gather tangible objects- If it is a digital picture or email, print it out. Next, build a fire, and then give the objects over to the flames. Verbally let the person go. Watch the items change. If you think you are ready for new love, ask for it at this time. Thank the universe and then put out the fire.
The fire should be built where you can sit next to it comfortably. If you have any other items you use for rituals (an essential oil or herb or candle). This doesn’t have to be a fancy or drawn out ritual, but if you like, you can choose to make a retreat out of the event.
If you absolutely can not do this outside, you can always use a candle or a small pan. Just make sure you can watch and observe the change caused by the burn. If even that is beyond what you can gather, it is more important for you to move past this love, so you can use visualization to see the burning of the items . The fire is powerful because it changes things from one state to another.
It is your intention that is the most important factor of all. If your artifacts are things that you can’t burn, you can always give them away or sell them. If it is a family heirloom, and you don’t feel comfortable returning them to the giver, give them to another family member. The main part of this is the releasing of the physical object.
The next step
It is up to you choose the words of your releasing. Some people sing. Some pray. Some write new words. Choose your own way. Give thanks for the old memories as you say good-bye and move on to something else. An important thing to remember is that objects hold on to energy. It is these things and this energy that holds us down and holds us back. We have to release the old energy and love to make room for the new.